I do…I do…and I do…

i-do-i-do-logoWe meet the man or woman that we plan to spend the rest of our lives with. When you first meet each other you’re full of love for each other, lots of laughs, fun dates, and so much more. This person is the man/woman of your dreams!! You say…I Do and said your vows in front of family and friends. Most importantly before God.

Then things are not perfect. Someone falls short. Something happens in your marriage. Your upset with each other. Life happens….etc. You think I am done with this person but that is not what you committed to do. You committed to say I do again and again to each other.

When your marriage doesn’t go as planned…remember why you fell in love with this person. Remember your vows. Pray, show grace, be humble, forgive and keep on loving each other. Most importantly love each other unconditionally and remember “Love IS the GREATEST”!

1 Corinthians 13

Love Is the Greatest

13 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;[a] but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[b] and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! 10 But when the time of perfection comes, these partial things will become useless.

11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 12 Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.[c] All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.

13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

True Love

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.

Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth.
I John 3:18 (NIV)

Someone that says, “I love you” and just gives you words with NO ACTIONS is not TRUE LOVE. Nor is it how God planned us to love one another.

Christ was devoted to us enough to give his own life for us (Romans 5:8), even when he didn’t feel like it (Matthew 26:39).

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It’s time to clean house….

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Sometimes in life it’s time to clean out your house. Not only do we need to clean out our house we need to clean up our heart and mind. You know how you feel great when everything is organized and clean in your home. Well, our hearts and mind work the same way. There comes a time where you need to give it all to God…free your mind of all the junk (worry, hurt, fear, sadness, etc.) and free your heart from all the brokenness. Sometimes we have failed relationships, lost our job, lost a loved one…whatever has happened it takes over our minds and heart. When this happens you can’t love like God wants you to love others. You can’t live the life HE has planned for you. So “clean house”.

God will restore your mind and heart.

Strive to have a heart like Jesus and you will have a clear mind.

Love and Blessings,

Cheri

I have had ENOUGH!

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Have you ever said, “I have had enough”? In these moments we need to take a break and not act out in the “moment”. So many times we just act out in the “moment” and regret it later. I know I have personally done this on several occasions. I know you may not feel like in that “moment” to take a break, but acting out in anger is not having a heart like God. Most of the time when we act out in anger we regret it later.

How many times have you acted out in anger and realized later…you should of handled things different? Say this prayer every time you are tempted to act out in anger;

Lord, help me control my anger. Set a guard over my mouth to help me take a break in the moment so I don’t make matters worse. Help me honor You in all I say and do. Help me to have a heart like YOU! In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Keep doing this over time and you will stop acting out in anger and turn to God first before you react to the situation.

Love and Blessings,
Cheri

Getting off that emotional roller coaster!!

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I am getting off this emotional roller coaster!! Have you ever said that before? Or ever felt like you were on an emotional roller coaster during a life event? Always going up and down with emotions and then repeating the same emotions over and over again.

You can get dragged down by others drama or what they are personally going through. This is where you need to learn to draw a line and set some healthy boundaries. We should help a friend in need, or listen to someone who is having a problem. We just need to recognize that other people can influence the way we view our own lives and how we feel about ourselves. It can be emotionally draining and unproductive.

We all go through emotions but when it starts to take over your life that is when you need to look at everything, give it ALL to God and get off the emotional roller coaster. Especially when you are feeding off someone else’s emotions, how they feel about you or what they are going through.

You want to be able to produce fruit and if you are on an emotional roller coaster you cannot produce fruit. Emotions can take over your life and not allow the Holy Spirit to work in you. Galatians 5:22-23 (NIV) 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

Don’t let someone else’s emotions dictate how you are feeling. I have been doing this for several years now and I have realized that I need to take my life back. I can be there for people, listen to them and pray for them. I just can’t allow them to steal my joy, peace and who I am. This is where setting healthy boundaries’ comes in and you get off the emotional roller coaster. If they want to stay on it then let them but life is too short to be going in circles and being unproductive. Continue to pray for them.

Put on the full armor of God and take a stand against the devil’s schemes. Get off that emotional roller coaster and surrender it all to God.

Ephesians 6:11-17 (NIV)

11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

Wait Upon the Lord!

Image As I sit here and reflect our Bible study (Esther~Beth Moore) today it has given me such a different perspective on things. When we go through a life event (whatever that might be for you) we need to give it to God and wait upon the Lord.  If we wait upon the event or person it will make you weak and you will be about that event or person. When you wait upon the Lord your strength is renewed.

God is everlasting; he shows us grace and forgiveness time and time again. That is what we should show others. I am learning this lesson myself…if we hold something against them it will hold you in bondage. We need to let it go, show grace and give forgiveness. God will never give us favor in a grudge. Nothing pleases Satan more than holding grudges against others and pride. Give it all to God and make Jesus Christ the center of your attention.

I was reminded of a song by Chris Tomlin, “Everlasting God” this is goes in line with “Waiting upon the Lord”.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yubLGTOcm8c

So, Wait Upon the Lord!! Psalm 130:5