I do…I do…and I do…

i-do-i-do-logoWe meet the man or woman that we plan to spend the rest of our lives with. When you first meet each other you’re full of love for each other, lots of laughs, fun dates, and so much more. This person is the man/woman of your dreams!! You say…I Do and said your vows in front of family and friends. Most importantly before God.

Then things are not perfect. Someone falls short. Something happens in your marriage. Your upset with each other. Life happens….etc. You think I am done with this person but that is not what you committed to do. You committed to say I do again and again to each other.

When your marriage doesn’t go as planned…remember why you fell in love with this person. Remember your vows. Pray, show grace, be humble, forgive and keep on loving each other. Most importantly love each other unconditionally and remember “Love IS the GREATEST”!

1 Corinthians 13

Love Is the Greatest

13 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;[a] but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[b] and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! 10 But when the time of perfection comes, these partial things will become useless.

11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 12 Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.[c] All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.

13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

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I have had ENOUGH!

Have you ever said, “I have had enough”? In these moments we need to take a break and not act out in the “moment”. So many times we just act out in the “moment” and regret it later. I know I have personally done this on several occasions. I know you may not feel like in that “moment” to take a break, but acting out in anger is not having a heart like God. Most of the time when we act out in anger we regret it later.

How many times have you acted out in anger and realized later…you should of handled things different? Say this prayer every time you are tempted to act out in anger;

Lord, help me control my anger. Set a guard over my mouth to help me take a break in the moment so I don’t make matters worse. Help me honor You in all I say and do. Help me to have a heart like YOU! In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Keep doing this over time and you will stop acting out in anger and turn to God first before you react to the situation.

Love and Blessings,
Cheri

Getting off that emotional roller coaster!!

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I am getting off this emotional roller coaster!! Have you ever said that before? Or ever felt like you were on an emotional roller coaster during a life event? Always going up and down with emotions and then repeating the same emotions over and over again.

You can get dragged down by others drama or what they are personally going through. This is where you need to learn to draw a line and set some healthy boundaries. We should help a friend in need, or listen to someone who is having a problem. We just need to recognize that other people can influence the way we view our own lives and how we feel about ourselves. It can be emotionally draining and unproductive.

We all go through emotions but when it starts to take over your life that is when you need to look at everything, give it ALL to God and get off the emotional roller coaster. Especially when you are feeding off someone else’s emotions, how they feel about you or what they are going through.

You want to be able to produce fruit and if you are on an emotional roller coaster you cannot produce fruit. Emotions can take over your life and not allow the Holy Spirit to work in you. Galatians 5:22-23 (NIV) 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

Don’t let someone else’s emotions dictate how you are feeling. I have been doing this for several years now and I have realized that I need to take my life back. I can be there for people, listen to them and pray for them. I just can’t allow them to steal my joy, peace and who I am. This is where setting healthy boundaries’ comes in and you get off the emotional roller coaster. If they want to stay on it then let them but life is too short to be going in circles and being unproductive. Continue to pray for them.

Put on the full armor of God and take a stand against the devil’s schemes. Get off that emotional roller coaster and surrender it all to God.

Ephesians 6:11-17 (NIV)

11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

Wait Upon the Lord!

Image As I sit here and reflect our Bible study (Esther~Beth Moore) today it has given me such a different perspective on things. When we go through a life event (whatever that might be for you) we need to give it to God and wait upon the Lord.  If we wait upon the event or person it will make you weak and you will be about that event or person. When you wait upon the Lord your strength is renewed.

God is everlasting; he shows us grace and forgiveness time and time again. That is what we should show others. I am learning this lesson myself…if we hold something against them it will hold you in bondage. We need to let it go, show grace and give forgiveness. God will never give us favor in a grudge. Nothing pleases Satan more than holding grudges against others and pride. Give it all to God and make Jesus Christ the center of your attention.

I was reminded of a song by Chris Tomlin, “Everlasting God” this is goes in line with “Waiting upon the Lord”.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yubLGTOcm8c

So, Wait Upon the Lord!! Psalm 130:5

Girl Talk~Perimenopause

ImageI have decided since I was totally clueless what was going on with me and really had not talked with many people about perimenopause that I would share with you all my experience. Over the past few years my periods have been worse but I thought it was because of my fibroids and cysts. I would tell myself I just have a lot of stress in my life, with weight gain and not exercising that this is why I am acting and feeling like I am.

Several weeks ago a life event took place in my life that made me look at several areas of my life. (Which I am still digging deep into my life and really looking at things) Anyways, I realized after talking with my gynecologist that I was going through perimenopause. We talked about it before but I ignored it and didn’t want to face the fact I was getting older and it was time for this part of my life. Pride got in the way and I didn’t want to take her suggestions of taking medication.

My doctor went over symptoms of perimenopause and asked if I was going through any of them. I met over half of them. I had filled the prescription last November and would not take it at the time so with the guidance of my doctor I decided that I needed to start taking my prescription. She subscribed 25mg of Zoloft. I am here to tell you after three weeks I feel like a new woman and I am not going through all the symptoms I was prior to the medication. She advised me that I could take it for a year and then we look at my hormones at that time and decide what is best from there. So if any of you are experiencing any of the symptoms below don’t be like me and ignore it. Get with your gynecologist and decide what is best for you. It’s not only hard on you but all the relationships around you.

Since then I have been taking the medication, exercising and eating healthy it is the difference between night and day. I went through my week of “PMS” and usually I would act out in rage, irritable, anxiety and so much more but this past week nothing like the months prior and my cycle is not as painful.

I just wanted to share my experience with you all because I made the mistake of ignoring it and it has affected my life and my family. I prayed and prayed about all of this and decided to make the changes so I could treat the symptoms of perimenopause and live a healthier lifestyle.

Due to the commonality of symptoms, many women confuse perimenopause with PMS and vice versa. Both PMS and perimenopause are the result of fluctuating progesterone levels. However, PMS symptoms are cyclical and directly correlate with a woman’s menstrual cycle.  They also disappear once a woman gets her period.  Not so with perimenopause.

Perimenopause symptoms typically continue throughout a woman’s monthly cycle and do not disappear once she gets her period. They are also much more erratic, unpredictable and intense. So much so that many women feel they are losing control or as if they are going crazy.

You are not going Crazy!

While the intensity, unpredictability and erratic nature of perimenopause symptoms is certainly disconcerting, the good news is you are not going crazy.  Simply addressing the hormone imbalance, in addition to understanding the role of nutritional needs and the importance of reducing stress in your life, you will not only get relief from perimenopause symptoms, but you will bring a calming harmony and wellness back into your life!

Since I figured out all of this and started talking with several women that are my age and older have all told me that they went through the same things and a lot of them had to take medication for several years until menopause was over. Just know you are not alone…I thought I was and I let pride get in the way of talking to other women.

Perimenopause symptoms vary among women not only in intensity, but in the types of symptoms as well.  While each woman’s experience is different and unique to her, there are many symptoms that are relatively common, such as:

  • Irritability
  • Rage
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Feeling revved
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Mood swings
  • Reduced self-esteem
  • Hot flashes & night sweats
  • Insomnia
  • Fatigue
  • Crying easily
  • Shorter cycles, closer together
  • Heavy bleeding with blood clots

When people don’t see it as you did….it really doesn’t matter!

heelsWe have all heard, “don’t judge me until you walk in my shoes”. I have seen and heard a lot of things over the years. I have been judged by others and at the time, I thought what they thought mattered. Today, I am here to tell you that it doesn’t matter what people think or how they judge you. There is only one who can judge you, have the last word over you…that is God.

For instance, I have made a lot of mistakes and decisions that not only affected me but my family and friends. Everyone has their version of the story and how things played out. Even people I don’t know have their version but at the end of the day I know what I went through and how I saw it and what the truth really is. God knows our stories and the journeys we are on. And it is only His counsel, His advice and His guidance that truly has any bearing in my life.

For myself, I had to go through it all to be the woman I am today; which first and foremost is a daughter of Christ!! It’s your story and your journeys so don’t hesitate to share your side. The old adage is true; there are two sides to every story. But your story is YOUR story! So share, testify, tell what happened, and tell of what God is doing and has done in your life. Then sit back and witness how God uses your story to touch others and to make difference in the lives of others. Don’t take ownership of THEIR vision because they didn’t see it how you did.

You are unique. Your adventure is unique. Your relationship with God is unique. Ask Him to help you share your journey. And when you do, remember you’re only doing it for an audience of One!

GOD IS IN THE RESTORATION BUSINESS!

Always water your OWN grass. Before you make irrational decisions and leave your marriage…Have an affair, lust after someone else, confide in other men or women. Make sure it’s God’s decision not YOURS! PRAY, put God first and listen to the wisdom of God. Don’t make your own selfish decisions.

When you’re having problems in your marriage you think it’s easier to flirt or have an affair with someone else. You tell yourself, “We would have a better life, more fun and so much more.” You can convince yourself that the “Grass is Greener on the other SIDE”.  If you’re honest with yourself the “GRASS” looked just fine where you are. (It just needs watering) You’re just going through a season in your marriage. Are you being selfish and only thinking of yourself? Make sure you put God first in your marriage.

Our marriages should be our prize possessions. Is your marriage broken today? Are you ready to “junk” it and never again look back? Hold on!!! GOD IS IN THE RESTORATION BUSINESS! It may take time and some hard work, but it is possible to have a completely restored marriage.

Matthew 19:26 Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

So today ask God for HIS wisdom and guidance in your marriage.

Love and Blessings,

Cheri